I am both loved and hated for telling what I think about the nature of a Nessus relationship. First of all, my findings are based on doing charts. The charts and my clients teach me what I need to know. I try to teach you what I think you should know. Astrology must be practical for there to be any point. I do not like airhead astrology. If people cannot find practical help from what I write, I have failed. I hope you get something valuable from this article.
Most people will have at least one Nessus relationship. I will define a Nessus relationship. It is one in which there is a prominent Nessus—– Nessus in a close conjunction( an orb of 1-2 degrees) with a personal planet. Secondarily, Nessus may be in close aspect to an angle(The ASC, IC, DSC or MC). The angle/Nessus relationship does not seem as powerful as does the planet/Nessus relationship. The conjunction is the strongest aspect. However, another aspect, such as the trine, opposition or square, would count as a Nessus relationship, if the orb were very close(1-2).
The Stages of a Nessus Relationship
1. The Nessus/Personal Planet relationship is the hottest, simply speaking. If there is a aspect that will make a normally sane person crazy, it is this one. You know the stories of someone giving up everything for a person and then waking up one day in a nightmarish hell. Well, I bet it was a Nessus relationship. Why is this so? I think that Nessus calls up some deep childhood abuse/low self esteem and the Nessus relationship seems to be the CURE for it. The Nessus relationship feels like HOME. The Nessus relationship offers the PROMISE of unconditional love. However, what actually happens is quite the opposite. In some magical alchemy from hell, the Nessus relationship turns into exactly that from which one tried to escape *sigh*.
Can you tell that I learned from personal experience?
2.As I said, at first, the Nessus relationship is pure,unadulterated joy and passion that is “off the walls”. However, as all dreams, this does not last terribly long. If I had to put a time on it, I would say three months. However, it will, usually, start to go badly after a month.
3. I have seen people give up, practically, everything to ESCAPE a Nessus relationship. It can be very hard to escape because revenge could come into play when it ends. Somehow, these passions bring out the worst in people. My advice would be to try to leave without escalating already explosive passions. I mean, you want to get out with your body and your sanity. Right?