My commitment to the people who read my website and come to me for readings is honesty. With that caveat, I want to tell you what I believe about this topic. There are certain factors which spell certain levels of a relationship. It is clear by what touches what in synastry what the people will feel for each other.
Synastry is a major reason people will consult an Astrologer. If the chart does not allow for something in the relationship, one cannot force it.The lack will be as real as an amputated limb.It is not there. No wishing will make it so. That is my experience. Remember, the orbs in any of these aspects will be key, too. An exact orb will be like sitting next to a fire. A wide orb will be like sitting several feet away.
I will explain certain aspects in synastry and what they offer to a relationship and what the lack of them will do to a relationship.
Venus trine Venus—- The other person will be pleasing to your tastes. Your ideal of beauty will be met by him. His ideal of beauty will be met by you.
Venus square Venus–There may be a sense that the person does not fit with what you find beautiful.The closeness of this orb will determine the intensity of this feeling.
Pluto trine Venus–this is raw passion combined with finding the person beautiful to your senses.
Pluto square Venus—this is raw passion which may explode into cats and dogs fighting
Pluto conjunct Venus–this is a feeling that you have found your true other half
Pluto conjunct the Moon–this is deep heart love combined with raw passion. This is the one of romance novels and once in a lifetime imo
Pluto trine the moon–raw passion and deep heart love without cats and dogs fighting
Pluto square the moon—raw passion with cats and dogs fighting
Mars square Pluto—raw passion with power plays which could get violent if allowed to do so
Moon trine Moon— true soul mates and true friends from the heart
Moon square Moon–you don’t “get” the person. You may be crying and the person will not be able to comfort you as they have little understanding of how you work
Moon oppose Moon–you do not “get” the person as your hearts see things very differently. Again, the person would have a hard time comforting you for the above reason.
Uranus in any aspect—-intense attraction but no indication of anything past this
Neptune in any aspect–people may see with rose colored glasses. If there are abuse aspects, people may not be able to see it until they are embroiled. Then, there may be an awful wake up call. On the other hand, in a positive synastry Neptune can give the feeling of living in a musical
An emphasis on Mercury aspects will bode to a friendship relationship. It will show a meeting of the minds. Synastry with a heavy emphasis on Mercury will bode to just a friendship and not romance.
An emphasis on Mercury and Jupiter strengthens the possibility that it will be a friendship and not a romance. Jupiter is a feel good aspect wherever it is found. When it is found in a heavy Mercury synastry, one feels good with the person, intellectually. There will not usually be romantic feelings by either person .
Soul mate asteroids–There are certain soul mate asteroids such as Valentine, Ceres, and Amor. There are many more.
Abuse /Obsession asteroids–There are many of these such as Nessus and Dejanira.
House Overlays come into play here.There are emotional houses and there are practical houses. If one overlays the charts, each person will activate certain houses of the other. This is House Overlays. This would have a lesser significance than the actual planet interplay, as described above but cannot be ignore.
This is a small sampling. I want to add something for the people who may have an aspect that I said was not conducive to love and they love each other. Certain aspects are so strong and so pivotal that they can over ride others.I put moon aspects in this category. Moon trine Moon can overcome many aspects.Moon/Pluto is the same.However, there is a distinct difference in the two
Moon trine moon is a transparent intimacy. When Pluto touches the moon, there may be mind games and power struggles. Think of the intensity of the tides. Pluto is the intensity. The moon is the ocean. Together, they are like a small boat rocking tempestuously on the roiling waves. Like that metaphor?
In conclusion, knowing what the relationship will allow is wonderful information with which to be forearmed. Of course, one may decide to enter a relationship without good moon aspects. That is one’s choice but one will know, beforehand. That is my purpose for any of the work I do or articles I write.