One of the ladies in one of my Facebook Astrology groups asked me what about Pluto with respect to parents. My wish is her( and your command). Yes, Pluto plays a large factor in one’s relationship with one’s parents, as we shall see.
1. Pluto Conjunct the Sun
These natives have a great deal of inner strength. I love this aspect because my favorite aunt had it in the 4th house. She ruled her children but she was full of love. She was a powerhouse as a mother and all her children did exceptionally well in life. In the case of this aspect, the father had a great influence on the native. This one aspect does not tell us if it were a good influence or a bad influence, just a strong, defining influence.
2. Pluto Square the Sun
This aspect may be a father with whom one cannot reconcile. There may be deep feelings between the parent and child, but somehow they can never quite mend fences. I saw this aspect in a person who lost his father at an early age, so I suspect trauma with a father’s death or something of this nature may be indicated by this aspect, too.
3. Moon Conjunct Pluto
I call this the “smother mother” aspect. When I think of a smother mother, it seems nice. However, I am sure it is not. These natives usually have a lot of guilt and
the feeling that they can never do enough for the mother.
4. Moon Square Pluto
In this case, there are, likely, very deep feelings in the relationship but there seems to be an inability to reconcile. These kinds of things are very sad, but each chart has sad elements.
5. Moon Oppose Pluto
In this case, there is, likely, a back and forth kind of relationship in which the parties are close and then, likely, fight and break apart and then come back.
6. Moon Trine Venus
This is a native who was really loved by his mother. Also, this is a strong charm aspect for the Moon Trine Venus native. If they are men, they love women and women feel this and love them back. These men, also,seem to have many female friends and seem to prefer women to men.
7. Cancer Moon
It is said that these natives have a difficult relationship with mother. I can attest to that as a Cancer Moon. However, on the up side, we love being mothers ourselves. I loved being pregnant, too, which is unusual. We, Cancer Moons, are strong protectors of those whom we love. Also, if someone hurts someone we love, we are like fierce pecking chickens—–nice visual.
8. Moon Conjunct Mars
This is a relationship with the mother which is of a violent nature. It may not be actual violence, but may be fighting and dissension.
9. Moon Square Mars
These natives may fight with their mothers, but never be able to resolve the relationship i.e constant fighting with no resolution.
10.Moon Oppose Mars
These natives may have a volatile relationship with the mother, but it may abate at times only to start again in a never ending cycle.
I have sun semi square pluto though
This aspect has to be super close V–not more than 2 degrees.
I have Moon in Cancer…..had a great relationship with my mother. Be careful of subjective opinions….the aspects to the Moon are important. Moon in Cancer indicate emotions and connections with the mother but in itself does not indicate positive or negative
Thanks for your comment, Sharon.
@Ami I have it at 1 degree separating
Hi Ami, once again another interesting article 🙂 What would you make of Moon opposite Venus in a man’s chart? Thanks, Jak
Not too charming—-kind of lack of social ease BUT it is a rather small aspect in terms of a whole chart.
Dear Ami Ann,
I have moon square Mars and square Pluto (and opposite Venus), these tense aspects are all in fixed signs and unfold in the angular houses. I had a very conflicting relationship with my mother, I had a pattern of rejection and feeling unwanted and unloved throughout my life. I often felt she was manipulative. Sun in Pisces in the 8th house and square Jupiter in the 11th house. I perceived my father as absent and never trusted him, it impacted feeling rejected and unwanted by groups and of not really fitting in. The parents’s relationship was lacking trust and love. Saturn in the 6th house tells me I have inherited the family karma and it played out in a very toxic relationship. The only things that helped was to acknowledge that my parents did the best they could with what they had and to show them compassion and understanding. Family constellations therapy helps alleviate the feelings deriving from these aspects and while not all is well, self-awareness and self-expression did become catalysts from inner growth and deeper understanding.
One aspect that I feel shows a deficient relationship with the father is sun square Saturn, I have seen this in several charts of friends, the person is usually very insecure and especially mistrustful of men. As usual, very insightful article, thank you for saying things like they are!
I would like to also ask your opinion of an aspect of moon conjunct venus (5 degrees) and conjunct lilith (about 4,5 degrees) in a man’s chart. Thank you so much!
Very charming man and very sexy like exudes sex appeal. thank you for your heart felt comment and Welcome Serena! <3
i have pluto conjunct sun (7 degrees) i am feeling emotional about your description of your friend! i am not married yet, but i have this dream to have a family!
i have moon in gemini 28 degrees conjuction lilith and chiron, i already could find healing for this moon (my mom is narcisit) since my 15years i begin seach for this healing, i only could find it in 2018 (32 years old)
my life changed when i could healing it, my moon is opposite neptune (4degrees)
Thank you so much for your great post, D! I send you the warmest wishes and a big hug!
I have Pluto sextile Sun. What does this mean?
Very smart about people and a strong person