Synastry Aspects I Know Intimately

I like to try to write articles people will find interesting and fun. I hope this article reaches that goal. I was thinking about an aspect I had with a long term relationship. He was the Sun and I was the Uranus. I was the “wild rebel” and he was the conservative who held things together. That aspect got me thinking about how much more deeply we understand aspects that we have experienced. Of course, we cannot experience all aspects. To try to remedy this, I like to pick the brains of people when I look at their charts. However, as much as you can learn from others, you will still understand your own aspects better.

Sun Oppose Uranus

As I said, I was the Uranus. The Sun person was kind of the “dad”. I was kind of the wild child. This aspect can make for great ups and downs in the relationship, which was true. It can, also, make for an enduring attraction of an “opposites attract” kind of thing. If I had to do it again, I may not. The instability of the relationship was not pleasant. It was a long term relationship but it had the feeling that it could end at any time.

Sun Conjunct Nessus

I was the Sun. He was the Nessus. All I can say about this is that it IS as bad as you would think. The Nessus person feels an insatiable urge to abuse the Sun person. The problem with Nessus is that it promotes the greatest attraction in all of Astrology( and I mean all). Everyone should experience a Nessus relationship once. It really and truly is a once in a lifetime experience. You think you will die if you lose the person. However, in time, you are so glad you did. Most Nessus relationships don’t last. If they do, they are unhappy. I define a “Nessus relationship” as one that has the Nessus of one person in very close aspect to a personal planet of another person. The aspect should not be more than a three degree orb.

Mars Conjunct Mercury

I was the Mercury. A female was the Mars. This makes for an unstable relationship which ends badly. Mars can be aggressive when it touches the personal planet of another person. It feels like a “giant ick” like a fly who keeps landing on your nose. Better still, a fly who lands on your nose and bites you.

Mercury sextile Moon

I have this with someone who is very close to me. I am the Mercury. I have a very close bond with this person. I can see “into his soul”. I can “feel him” as the saying goes. My mind understands his heart.

Sun Conjunct Chiron

I am the Chiron. This is a horrible relationship. If I see a Chiron relationship, I keep a distance. I have a lovely girlfriend, who is a casual friend. We have a Mercury/Chiron conjunction. I am the Mercury.I would love to get closer to her, invite her to lunch and things like that. However, I know that if I do, we will get really close and then, someone will feel very vulnerable and “run”. I have seen this pattern with Chiron relationships. They get close very fast. They break apart over something insignificant and they can never be restored.

Pluto Conjunct the Ascendant

I call this the “weak in the knees” aspect. I have had it with several men. They are the Pluto. I did feel weak in the knees. Pluto is such a powerhouse that when it conjuncts a sensitive spot, such as the Ascendant. The Ascendant person feels “swept away”. The Pluto person feels a great attraction, as well. For him, he wants to “control” and possess her.

Moon Conjunct Pluto

I was the Pluto in the Moon/Pluto conjunction, but I was the Moon in a square aspect with the same person. Moon/Pluto sweeps away both people. Pluto wants to dominate and “own” the Moon person. The Moon person wants to have a sweet surrender to the Pluto person. Moon/Pluto is one of the most intense aspects in all of astrology. It combines tenderness and passion. Everyone should experience it once.

However, through my work with charts, I have seen that this aspect is NOT enough to keep people connected long term. You need Moon aspects with personal planets. The best aspect in synastry is Moon trine Moon. This gives exquisite simpatico. I think Moon/Mercury aspects do, as well. Pluto is not a personal planet. Pluto may sweep you away in the manner of the ocean tides. However, if you live with a person, you need to communicate well, as a number one priority. You can’t stay in a long term relationship if there is no soul. Moon is soul. I suppose you can stay in it, but it will not be happy.

Jupiter Conjunct Lilith

I was the Jupiter. There was a great attraction here–a primal, raw sexuality feeling. Jupiter enlarges what it touches. Lilith is raw sexuality.

Moon Square Saturn

I was the Moon. I felt as if I could never do things well enough i.e I was always failing. Saturn in hard aspect, of which the conjunction is one, has to be watched in synastry. Saturn can be a “glue” or it can be too much criticism.