My title is not to brag, just to say that experience teaches that which simple study never could. I did a synastry yesterday. I told my client that if she wanted to inhabit hell, she should go forward with this relationship. I am very direct as you can tell. Life choices are too important to mince words. I have had quite a lot of experience in doing charts over my ten or so years as an astrologer. I would like to tell you some things I have learned from doing charts.
1. Watch Chiron in Synastry
Chiron is a very strange planet. It can be said to both heal and repel. I have seen strong Chiron synastry in family relationships. In families, we do seem to have a lot of pain, unless it is just me, which I doubt. However, in romantic relationships, one has the opportunity to choose.
There are certain Chiron aspects in synastry that are a simple “no go” for me. One is Chiron conjunct the North Node. That which conjuncts the North Node will be a theme for the relationship. Most people do not want pain as their life theme.
I do think that Chiron will repel many romantic relationships BEFORE they make it to the altar. In the case of one person’s Chiron conjunct the personal planet of another, I think the couple will be repelled if they do not rush into marriage.
Chiron aspects such as Chiron conjunct the Moon, Venus, Sun or Mars produce an initial attraction that is very strong. However, the people( or one of them) feels too vulnerable with the deep soul mate level of sharing that ensues. This person usually runs away.
2. Watch Nessus in Synastry
I am not saying a Nessus heavy synastry could not marry. I am saying that the Nessus person will have the ultimate power in the relationship. Also, there will be a feeling that abuse could very possible, EVEN if that abuse is buried for the moment.
I think certain Nessus placements will result in overt abuse. Placements such as Nessus conjunct the Ascendant or MC will result in abuse from the Nessus person to the angle person. I am using the word”will” correctly because I believe this will occur.
An individual with Nessus conjunct his Ascendant, MC or North Node will be an abusive person, most likely. Hence, if your guy or gal has this, make sure YOU have equal power because you will have to fight. Equal power would include your having a strong Pluto, such as Pluto conjunct the Sun.
Nessus conjunct Venus in synastry always seems to result in a break up of the relationship. The Nessus person will be the abuser of the Venus person but this may not be revealed at the beginning of the relationship. In the case of Moon conjunct Nessus in synastry, the Nessus person may not be an overt abuser of the Moon person, but the hidden threat would always be there.
There is so much to say about this asteroid that I could write a tome here. However, please check my search engine if you want more information because I think I have covered most Nessus eventualities in my website.
3. Watch the Moons in Synastry
If I could tattoo one thing on my chest, it would be this—- Watch the Moons in Synastry. I could write this on the board one hundred times. I don’t care if you tell me grandma and grandpa had Moon square Moon and they were happy. I don’t believe it! You were not in their bedroom. Were you?The Moon is the deepest and most tender part of a person. Each person needs understanding and theMoon square Moon aspect does not allow for that. Period End.
Moon oppose Moon is a relationship of opposites. One person would cry and the other would say”grow up”. I do not like this dynamic myself. I need to be understood. In a case such Moon oppose Moon, a Moon/Mercury in a good aspect could possibly save it.
Moon quincunx Moon would not last either. The quincunx feels terrible. It is one of those aspects that feels like chalk scratching on a board. It just feels terrible like a stomach ache.
Moon conjunct Moon and Moon trine Moon is a best friends and soul mate aspect( although I hate that word). No one is really a soul mate to another because we are each so different and we annoy each other. Yes, final word.
4 Watch “Bad” Asteroids
For all the people who don’t like the word “bad”, please stop reading now. I speak directly. Go find a snowflake who will never take a stand if you don’t like it. There are so many “bad” asteroids that I can name only a few here. In an otherwise good synastry, a single bad asteroid can ruin it. I will give some examples. Nemesis is a hidden enemy. If his Nemesis conjuncts your Sun, Moon, Ascendant or North Node, he will betray you. It will be a horrible betrayal because it will be hidden. This may be the worst kind. When you do finally see it, it will be too late.
Aphophis causes utter chaos that leads to destruction. If his Aphophis conjuncts your Sun, Moon, Venus, Ascendant or MC, he will destroy you.
There are asteroids such as Grieve, which cause grief. Sado is sadism. One does not want these asteroids touching one’s personal points in the chart. Personal Points are the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars and the Ascendant, IC, MC and Descendant, as well as the North Node.Please, check my search engine for articles on particular asteroids.
I hope you have enjoyed reading this article as much as I have enjoyed writing it!
Can you say what orbs you are using for these aspects?
I use 5-6 for planets. 10 for Sun and Moon and 2-3 for asteroids
Thank you for your content.
I have Lilith in 29º of cancer and a man I like has Grieve in 29ª cancer.
What can you say about that? Please
He may bring you sadness in the area of sexuality
Thank you so much for sharing your profound astrology experience!
My new boyfriend has his Nemesis conjunct my ascendant. Can the rest of our multiple harmonious aspects offset this placement, or is it doom no matter what?
Doom in my opinion. Has to be close though–1-3
Lol, it will be very hard to find a man/woman without a lot of problem evil abuse. Impossible. There are currently over 822,000 known asteroids in our solar belt
Do you use heliocentric positions? A website?
What are they?
A site called true-node.com has an ephemeras and one option is for heliocentric. What’s the best place to find asteroids?
Astro.com is the one I use for asteroids
Reading what you said above to Sylvia whose new boyfriend’s nemesis is conjunct her asc. You feel the relationship is doomed. Is it that she will see him as doing things that are hostile or disrespectful toward her in public that will cause conflict in the relationship whether he is aware of it or not? I am very curious because my nemesis conjuncts my husband’s asc by 33 min and also conjuncts his mercy by 1 degree, and this has been my experience. Our moons are also in opposition which probably does not help. 4 counselors have recommended we consider divorce. I agree, but my husband refuses to consider that it may be what is best for us. I feel like such a heel for considering it. Am I wrong??
The energies play out for good or bad. They could be hidden when there are squares or more overt as in conjunctions but it is no one’s fault. People have to live with it or leave, I guess lol
Always looking forward to your posts Ami!
Good night from Argentina
Thank you, my Love!
I have just done a kind of deep dive into asteroids which has obviously given me a great deal of useful information. I have a small list of those that are useful to me at the moment. I felt on most of the articles I would like to thank you for this and that bit but realised I needed to send only one message really.
I was just thinking, it’s only because I knew what I was looking for that I got anywhere with that, some of the articles I read were before the mid 2018 limit of your astrology blog page.
I just feel that it is a powerful, priceless some might say, resource (there are definitely times in the past where that would have been known, skeptical age we live in!). It would be a shame if some people missed out because of lack of navigation ease on wordpress.
Btw I have Uranus- Moon on less than one degree and it is worth it!
Thank you for your comment and your participation on my site!
I don’t know my mother’s time of birth, but she has an Aquarius moon and mine is in Scorpio. It wouldn’t shock me if they square each other. It would explain a lot…
Yes, if you feel they square, they do!! I hate this aspect with family. I have it with my mom
My father also has an Aquarius moon, but we get along much better. It’s not an intense or destructive relationship. I wouldn’t describe it as close though.
What happens if my crush has both Aphophis and Nemesis conjunct my venus in Gemini 🙁
Just wanna say that his Moon completes my Moon, Mars in a Grand trine.
Nemesis will be your enemy. No go for me on this one xoxoxo
What if the asteroid Nemesis conjunct MC, mean everybody sees the person as a betrayal and will likely betray people?
People betray THAT person over and over again. It just is energy that plays out SF