I have been ruminating on this topic for ten years. I have seen a certain configuration in the charts of client but I have seen it in my own relationship charts to know that it is very real, in my opinion and experience. I hope this gives you something to consider in your own relationships.
First of all, I will tell you something about myself that I feel embarrassed about. However, I have had enough life experience to know that if I experience something, many other people will, too. I do have the ability to open up about my pain and this does seem to free others. i feel this is one of my gifts. Aspect wise, it may be a Grand Trine of the Ascendant, Venus and Chiron.
Back to the subject. I find that the asteroid Ceres is very powerful in the synastry chart. Ceres is really my favorite in the chart of men. It gives the man a very nurturing quality.I, also, find that Nessus plus Ceres makes the man so attractive to me that I don’t even know how to handle it.( I do handle it for those of you who want to call the cops)
I had an experience that made me want to discuss this topic. It is my relationship with a U Tube person. First of all, I never met the person. I happened to watch one of his videos on the Covid vaccine. I found him to be the most attractive man I have ever seen. Also, to add a interesting wrinkle, he is gay. He is a make up artist—Wayne Goss. I watch his videos just to see him talk.
He has Ceres and his Moon in exact conjunction to my IC. So, he is very nurturing. He feels very, very nurturing to me because the IC is one of the most vulnerable places in the entire chart. Now, for the clincher. His Nessus conjuncts my MC. This tells me that he will abuse me and people will SEE it. This is a Nicole/OJ aspect/
Nessus is the asteroid of abuse. Everyone has every asteroid. It is the synastry or relationship chart which shows us what Nessus will do in the relationship. In some relationships, Nessus is not a factor at all.. However, if there is a strong Nessus, the relationship begins with passion that is the strongest I have ever seen or felt. However, the relationship will not be happy even if you stay together. fro many years. Nessus is “too hot not to cool down”. When it does cool down, that which remains to the participants is the worst hate I have ever seen.
I hope I have explained a phenomena I have been observing for some time. I am here to be practical, not to look intellectual or to appease people.
PS I want to add a note. One is that I do not think Wayne Goss is abusive at all. In fact, he is very loving(Moon conjunt Ceres) and he tends to stuff his emotions rather than act on them, which is classic for Mars in Cancer. He mentions that he has stomach issues, which is classic for this kind of stuffing. I would know because I have it. However, with me, Wayne would want to be abusive due to the INTERACTIONS of our charts. I am not saying he would be abusive to me but the urge would be there.So, please note that what happens in synastry does not necessarily mean that either of the people have that trait. The relationship brings it out.
PPS If Wayne Goss were straight and attracted to me, I would never have a relationship with him no matter how I FELT. I know that the chart would come to pass.Ten years ago, I would have moved heaven and earth to have him because my FEELINGS could be very strong.The difference is that I KNOW the relationship would be hell. So, please study your charts before you make life changing decisions!