Most things in life have the good, the bad and the ugly about them. Why not Astrology, unless you are one of those astrological weenies who think everything has to be good, good, good? *Sigh* Show me what area of life is good, good, good. Case closed. Onto the subject of Saturn in synastry.
First of all, one must understand the role of Saturn. Saturn is like a stern father. He makes you work for your grades. He makes you work for your allowance. He makes you eat your vegetables. He tells you to maintain a good reputation. This is Saturn in good aspect, which is the trine and the sextile. Now, for the hard aspects, we have the same father, but he has a very critical bent. He may be the kind of father who faults you for an A because he will, only, accept an A plus. This father may veer onto the nasty abusive side, simply because demanding too much of a person is nasty and abusive. Hence, when one sees Saturn in a Square, Opposition or Conjunction, think of the TOO CRITICAL FATHER. Just a note, with Saturn, the conjunction is considered a hard aspect. With some planets the conjunction is a positive/good aspect. With some planets, it is a hard aspect. Also, one can use the trine description for the sextile. The sextile needs to be developed and nurtured, whereas the trine comes as an effortless gift. However, both are gifts.Let’s discuss several planets in synastry with Saturn.
With the Sun/Saturn conjunction, the Saturn person may assume a strong parental role with the Sun person. The Saturn person may tell the Sun person how to dress, eat, and conduct his affairs. I have seen this in the charts of my clients. This aspect can work in a relationship. It can be a nice aspect if both people enjoy their roles. There is nothing wrong with one partner being a kind of parent to the other, if it works for both people.
The trine is, always, an easy flow of energy.Both people, likely, feel at peace with it and comfortable with it. Hence, the Saturn person will be parental to the Sun person but it will, likely, feel warm and nurturing, not oppressive.
In this case, the Saturn person may come on too strongly for the Sun person, who may want to escape the “constant carping”. The Saturn person may feel frustrated that the Sun person won’t “obey”. The Sun person may feel burdened by the demands of the Saturn person.
This case is the hardest. The square is a locked in energy, in my opinion. With the square, the Saturn person may harp on the Sun person to be more disciplined and responsible. The Sun person may feel very frustrated and resentful. This aspect could ruin a relationship, if both people do not find a kind of ceasefire. For an off the wall example—– If Oscar and Felix of the “Odd Couple” sectioned off their apartment to an Oscar zone/messy and Felix zone/neat, that would be the kind of compromise I mean.
The Venus/Saturn aspect in the conjunction, square and opposition seems very hard to me. Venus is a gentle, kind of defenseless planet. Think of a little puppy coming over for a neck scratch. I have a little Yorkie. She is the picture of innocence, as all dogs are. She just wants to love and be loved. When all the “adult mannerisms” are wiped off of us, we are like innocent puppies. Hence, the harsh Father Saturn can really break the love spirit of the Venus.
In the close conjunction, the Venus person may shut down her heart.She may feel criticized, especially in how she expresses love, but also in what she values, such as her tastes in things, such as taste in music, clothes, home decor and even humor.
With the trine, we have the best of both worlds. Think of a really good teacher you had that was both strict and fair. At the root of the relationship was a palpable love and care for you. This would be Saturn trine Venus. The Saturn may advise the Venus, but it will be from a place of love
With this aspect, the Venus person will, likely, shut down. She may have an air of fear or defensiveness about her. No one likes to be criticized.
I can see thesquare ruining a relationship. The Saturn person may be very critical of everything the Venus person does, when it comes to personal expressions of love and personal tastes.
This is a very hard aspect because the Mars person may not ever be able to get the approval of the Saturn person for how he conducts himself i.e how he plans and reaches his goals and how he pursues all passions from career to sexuality. The Saturn person may criticize how the Mars person”chews”. The life force may be diminished or broken in the Mars person by the Saturn person.
With the trine, the Saturn person is a positive force to help the Mars person discipline himself. Each person feels happy abo
With this aspect, the Mars person may feel trodden down by the demands of the Saturn person
With this aspect, the couple would have to agree to disagree. If the Mars person wanted to work all night and sleep all day, the Saturn person would have to simply agree. If the Mars person had a high sexual drive, the Saturn person would have to find a way to compromise, not criticize. With the square, there has to be compromise and a “live and let live” attitude by both people or the square could destroy the relationship.
I have not done all the possibilities of Saturn in synastry because I eschew long articles. If you would like a Part Two, I will be happy to do so!