Here I come, to the rescue. If you have read any of my articles, you know I am a moon freak. When it comes down to that soul mate connection that we all want, we have to look at moons. I am going to give a simple guide for the very beginner. Many people cannot afford to go to a professional Astrologer. The online, mechanized charts are just that: mechanized. I strive to help you find your own information and to empower you to learn from your own charts. This article is for that purpose.
First of all, we want to look for the ultimate soul mate aspect,moon trine moon. The trine is 120 degrees. Trines are always the same element. My Moon is 8 Cancer, so my trined Moons are 8 Pisces and 8 Scorpio. I can feel this in a relationship, male or female. Once you begin to feel this aspect, you will recognize it. Any loss of a moon trine moon friend is a hard thing. I have lost one, several months ago, and I recently encountered him and I felt that pang. It was a platonic friend. There is a recognition between moon trine moon people, in that they really have found that “other”. So, for the beginner, moon trine moon must be the same element, In my case, it is water. The degrees must be exact to about 7 degrees. One could go to 10 degrees, but it would be more ambient. With degrees, every degree counts, as to the strength. You will feel the difference, if you start to pay attention. You can look at your own chart and compare a 10 degree aspect to an exact one and you will see what I mean.
Moon sextile moon would be the exact same as moon trine moon, but a bit buried. The trine is an effortless gift. The sextile is a buried gift. With a little effort and attention, you can dig it up and have close to what moon trine moon has. I would say that a sextile will give you 65-70% of what a trine will. The trine stands alone as an effortless, unearned gift. This holds true for the natal chart, as well as synastry. The sextile is 60 degrees. So, it is 2 signs away, basically. ( Sometimes planets can be out of sign and this can be more complicated, but that is not applicable to our simple study of the subject) So, you can count 2 signs in either direction and find your sextiled moon. For me, my cancer Moon at 8 degrees Cancer would be sextile to Virgo Moon at 8 degrees and a Taurus Moon at 8 degrees.
Moon conjnct moon makes for best friends and soul mate lovers, as you are have the same heart. This is a lovely aspect, but you may be too close, at times, and no one can detach and pull back and assess the situation. However, this is a small issue, when you share hearts. Again, the conjunction could be from exact to 7-10 degrees and would behave accordingly.
So you don’t find anything special with Moon opposite Moon that’s good?
I have a Cancer ♋ Moon and have many Capricorn ♑ moon friends and a few sweetheart crushes.
I’m a Pisces ♓ sun, so there’s a Sun Moon sextile with those Capricorn Moon people.
I have a Scorpio ♏ moon trine my Cancer Moon in my batch of attractions, but as you mentioned elsewhere, the Scorpio moon can be too intense and for me can be too secretive even with an almost exact trine.
Opposite Capricorn moons might seem like emotional sticks in the mud at times but easier than Capricorn moons for some reason.
Squares and no aspect moons seem the hardest.
I hear you, Gib. I LOVE opposite Moons in friends but not in romantic. They do not, essentially, understand you imo. They are opposite so can really help in a close friendship, though. I am attracted to Cappy moons in friends and many seem to be this Moon.
What if a couple has square moons & double-whammy pluto conjunct venus? But the moon + mercury/jupiter/sun/mars aspects are all good? Is this still too much? Yay or try to stay away?
Great question and I am not sure. Moon/Mercury in good aspect COULD make it OK. I would need you to tell me what you think
Well I think it’s water under the bridge but I guessed it was a relationship “good for a weekend” or an on/off bedroom thing at best, but probably not a long-term holistic partnership. In the “Past Life Astrology” book, Judy Hall wrote the Venus/Pluto both ways could indicate spouses (or slave/master) from a past life reuniting. (That’s what caught my eye.) I imagine strong chemistry, lots of access to hidden buttons, but emotional discord with the square moons (maybe too much button-pushing altogether, and/or “I can almost reach you, maybe our fingertips can touch… yikes we slipped”). Maybe a karmic pull causing the other aspects to work overtime to try to overcome the moons, and never quite achieving… a soul longing that can’t be fulfilled…? I actually have nothing to back this up, though. Am I on track? Or, if reincarnation is real, and if what Judy Hall wrote about Pluto/Venus is true, the square moons could be from the dynamic in the life before, the residual bad feelings from the power imbalance or abuse. The good aspects would still have to work overtime, but it’s hard to make up for the hurts of the past.
The charts ALWAYS play out. One can’t control this. One has to use this info and act as one sees fit but you can’t make it not happen
My Moon is Opposite my Mothers North Node at an orb of 1. What would this mean? Does she not have my emotional well being infuture? Like, is my emotional well being not something that she really cares about?
Communication may be hard like it may be hard to understand each other