Psychology will tell you that it can’t done. Psychology is a new science. If you look at it’s history, it can’t make it’s mind up about much. So, why would you trust it, implicitly. That being said, let’s examine this subject. A PD is a frozen state, which is an aberration of the “normal. Normal is not a constant such as a mathematical figure. Normal is a fluctuating range. However, if it fluctuates too far out and FREEZES , we call it a PD. When you look at a PD this way, it loses some of it’s terror. A PD does inspire terror in people, as it seems so definitive and so conclusive.
To begin to heal a PD, one needs certain conditions to be met. One must have a safe place where one can share ones deepest feelings, not one’s manicured face. One must have a few cheerleaders. They must have the wisdom and maturity to light the way for the struggling traveler, who is probably treading water, and not doing a very good job of it.
The most important step to healing a PD may be to get some distance from it, such that you can sit on it’s shoulder and observe. This may sound easy, but it takes quite bit of time, tears, struggle and pure uphill effort to get here. This part may be the hardest part i.e getting some detachment from yourself.
The only way to do so, in my humble opinion, is to follow the above steps, with one more added. You must cry. You must open up the frozen constructs, which make up the PD, and let them thaw. Without this, I don’t think you can heal. Tears are God’s psychiatrists. God makes a way for all healing. God knew that we would need tears and we do.
For men, it is harder to open up the floodgates of tears than for woman. Men feel very, very vulnerable. However, no one has to see you cry. You just need to.
These simple steps will take you a long way to healing. Then, one must befriend some people who do not have PDs. One must show one’s face to these people and endure the shame one may feel( and the fear of rejection) Most people will not reject you when you bare you heart, but some will. The ones who do are teachers, in their own right, as they teach you that it won’t kill you if you are rejected.
All in all, it is not a walk for the faint of heart. There needs to be a certain desperation to heal. One must have to have despaired of the traditional ways of healing and have hit a pit of hopelessness. Without this, one will not be propelled to change, in my opinion.
Of course, I have to mention God, not as the last part, but as the first. God promises to be closer than a brother. He promises He will never leave you or forsake you. When you are Born Again, you have Gods literal spirit, inside of you. This Spirit can show you the way, in practical things .The Holy Spirit will show us things to come i.e allow you to be psychic.
All in all, it is a deal that you can’t pass up!