My beloved readers are not dummies. It just seemed like the right title for a briefer on how to dealer with Gaslighters, so they run away from you,
not the other way around
I can be your pilot in this endeavor because I have dealt with some of the best.
There are some rules you must keep in mind. These are your foundations like the ABCs.If you slip on one, you may slip on them all and slide down the hill on your backside. That is just what the Gaslighter wants, so pay attention, please 😀
Hang onto your reality. The Gaslighter deals in the currency of making you unbalanced. Stick to what you know of yourself. Stick to what you know of life. Stick to your morals and values because that is what truly defines a person.
If you have flaws, that does not make you worthless. The Gaslighter will try to take your flaws and make you doubt your reality. You can have flaws and still value yourself. The more you accept your flaws, the less power the Gaslighter will have over you.
You have inherent value if every person in the world forsook you. Your value is in your relationship to God. The Gaslighter wants to make you feel worthless so he can control you.
You don’t need to put up with abuse from anyone. If it hurts over and over and over, it probably will not stop, barring a miracle. Sometimes, you need to walk away from the people you love the most.
The Gaslighter wants to hide. She works in the dark. If you want to get rid of her once and for all, bring her actions out into the light. Let her know that you will expose her and what she does. This is like putting garlic in front of a vampire.They want to keep their masks on, at all costs. They will sprint away from you and find someone not so savvy.
When you have her on the run, celebrate. You deserve it. You were David and went against Goliath, another monster.
Seven is always the magic number. If you fight a Gaslighter and win, you will have gotten a wonderful personal victory. You will have stayed strong in the midst of someone trying to make you weak. You will have survived and thrived. That will build your confidence and your true self esteem. I talk from my own experience, as I always do.
Some of my wise readers have asked why one should engage with a Gaslighter. One needs to learn her ways. It is a tool one can put away for a rainy day. After one has the tool under one’s belt, , one can walk away: more hardened, perhaps, but ready for the next time, if it should arise.
I think that after one sharpens his Gaslighter Fighting Tool, one needs to let it go. I am being consumed by hatred for this person. She represents many people, That is what happens when you hate( or love) The person can be a representation of people from your past. I need to let the hatred go. I made my point with her. I won but the victory does not feel as good as I expected. I am filled with hate. I need to pray for her because God tells us to pray for our enemies. Many of my wise readers were right. One needs to walk away and leave her behind–once and for all.
My epilogue to the Gaslighting Series is that one must not stare too long into the darkness, lest one become like the monsters. I learned how to fight back to one of the worst Gaslighters. I can do it again, when needed. Now, it is time to move on. Thank you for taking this journey with me. Your comments are, always, very welcomed.
Yes. What do you think AA?
Do you agree that evolution is wrong
Yes, Evolution goes against Physics. Order goes to disorder. This is the 2nd law of Thermodynamics, I think. Evolution says that disorder( a puddle hit by lightening) goes to order, a magnificent human being.
Yes but science is against the bible Ami you are going the long route
Friend, all science is verified by the Bible, always. If science is against the Bible, it is junk science. It will be proven wrong, in time. It always have. You have to look at how many mistakes “science” has made it it’s history. There are countless and countless and countless. Evolution was recanted by Darwin, on his deathbed.
No it isn’t . Science does not explain how a dead man rises again
Or how faith healing is good. Hospitals would go busy long ago if they hired faith healers or reiki masters.
True, very true about faith healing etc. I was talking about many scientific concepts that were thought to be truth and were later found out to be bogus. Evolution is one. There are so many. Look back on medicine and see what they used to do( and still do) Look back on biology. They thought there was spontaneous generation, that life could just bring up from nowhere. Laundry can do that.
Meaning hospitals will go bust if they relied on biblical medicine
Actually, there is a true incidence of this with John G Lake. I can’t remember the state but you can Google it. He was so powerful using God’s healing that he went into hospitals and cured patients. There were so many people cured that hospitals closed down. He was given his own hospital. All they used was prayer and anointing oil
Google Smith Wigglesworth. What an amazing life he had.
Nick Vujicic is inspiring as well. Google him, he deserves it!
Nicholas James “Nick” Vujicic is a Serbian Australian Christian evangelist and motivational speaker born with tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare disorder characterised by the absence of all four limbs
Yes, I saw his story on FB!
The way to defeat a gaslighter is NOT to fight with him at all. He wants to get a raise
out of you. If you are above his level you have nothing to offer him. You probably wouldn’t
hang with him to began with because you would be with spiritually astute people.
YES, true Lon. I think you have to work through it the way I am though. You can’t be a prize fighter without taking lots of lumps. You can’t be a skater without taking lots of falls. If you see a beautiful skater, you can be sure that at some point, she was not so beautiful. She was bruised from falling. Once I learn my lessons, I will be able to skate away but for now I am getting bruised.
What do you call a gaslighter who doesn’t admit he is one, A?
None of them admit they are one, B.
No, because if one was made voiceless as a child, one must practice to get one’s voice. The Gaslighter is trying to demean one, just as the abusive parent did. If one’s parent was a Mal Narc, one has been gaslighted one’s entire life. One became a victim of it, by virtue of being a child. One will not just lose that victim status, overnight. One must strive to overcome it by mastery just as one would strive to learn a subject or learn to paint or sing. One must develop this muscle. It is the same thing, in my view and in my experience. I don’t have the last word on it, of course. I am just trying to overcome my own past in the best way I know how. It may be very falteringly, too.
It is your choice to believe as you care to, Friend
Words of wisdom from a Lone Spectre