I will say something you won’t like. Many times, the shrewdest person cannot see through a predator. I had an employee who turned out to be a sociopath. I could never have seen it coming, not in a million years.She was the most genuine appearing person. I am very perceptive but she gave no clue. In these cases, you need God to show you. He will. God knows what is behind the surface of things. Even with her, there were signs but they were not huge red flags. She was being sued for defamation or slander. She said the other person was a nut. In time, she treated a family member badly. She extorted and lied. However, without these signs, I would never have known.
The take away is that if a sociopath is that good, you can’t know, unless by Divine intervention. I had another situation where Divine Intervention saved me. This time, I had signs but I did not heed them. I was too innocent and too vulnerable. God swooped down and simply prevented me from wreckage. I think of what could have happened to me and I cringe. I am one fortunate person. God loves us so much. That should be another take away lesson.
Lets say that the sociopath is not that good, unlike the girl above, then you can protect yourself with certain methods. I will share them, here.
1. Trust your gut
In most cases, something will not ring true. Something will trigger your inner alarm bell. Most of the time, people will say that they knew something was not right, but they would not listen.
2. Realize that what seems too good to be true is.
This is a tough one because we all want fairy tales to be true. That is why they are so beloved. However, they are not true, in most cases. You see, I still hold out hope 😀 .
I think God can make your dreams come true. However, you have to commit your life to Him. You have to be close enough to Him to figure out what is His will and what are your desires. If you can do this, you should be safe 99% of the time.
3. Know your own weaknesses
Know your own vulnerabilities. A predator will figure this out fast. They have a lightening radar for vulnerability. They will know you better than you know yourself. This is one of the main ways that they take advantage of you. If you need lots of TLC, they will give it. If you need lots of ego stroking, they will give it. If you need lots of reassurance, they will give it. They will become your dream lover. Most everyone who is fooled by a predator says that this person was the person of their dreams. That is because a predator can figure out your dreams and give them to you. In time, they will become your worst nightmare. Many women were lucky to escape with their lives, having lost much of their property and wealth.
4. Love yourself with flaws
When we hate ourselves, we can be manipulated by both praise and criticism. No one will get perfect love for themselves, but we can try to love ourselves, warts and all.
5. Have a relationship with God where He can speak into your life
If you are heading for trouble, God will give you signs. If doors keep closing, don’t push through them. I have never seen a case of this work out well. There is a Divine Force guiding us. He will show us the way. We can hear, if we listen. This point is the best one for avoiding trouble. Learn to hear God’s voice. Distinguish it from your own. Distinguish it from the voice of other people. This pursuit will be well worth the effort. It may just be the life preserver you need when the waters seek to overwhelm you.
Thank you, Lon for giving us this song recommendation. It is purrfect.