Someone asked me to do a synastry which did not have much soul. She asked me if that was the final word on the subject. I said that there are soul mate asteroids. That is the subject of this article. It seems that asteroids can overcome a natal chart without soul. That is a very direct way to say it but I try to say things in a direct way, so that they are easy to understand.
With that in mind, I would like to talk about some very powerful soul mate asteroids. If these conjunct personal planets or angles, they can be major powerhouses. However, the orb must be very close. It needs to be close to exact. I will fudge up to three degrees but it is a fudge. With asteroids, one should really have them exact to two degrees and two degrees is wide.
I relate the asteroids to spices. Each spice is quite different but some are more alike than others. I have a garden, so can talk from experience. Rosemary is very different from spearmint but not as different from thyme. Oregano is different than sage but not that different. Each spice is truly unique with a unique flavor.
The same can be said for each and every asteroid. There are many different sides to love. There are many different sides to sexuality. The asteroids will show all.
I don’t look as much at asteroids conjunct each other. They do matter, to some degree, as does everything in the charts. However, the powerhouses are asteroids conjunct personal parts of the chart. I define personal parts of a chart as any of the Angles–the Ascendent, IC, Descendent and MC. This would include the following planets, as well—Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars. I do use Saturn and Jupiter, too. However, they are not as vital to the soul mate relationship as the personal planets, in my opinion. All things count in a chart but one must weight them in order to get the most accurate results.
1.Valentine- (447)-— Valentine is the kind of sacrificial love in which the lover will throw himself in front of the bus to protect his beloved. It is not a sexual asteroid, per se. It is an asteroid of pure love. Valentine thinks of his beloved before himself.
One could say that is is an agape kind of love. God loved us first when we were not worthy of love, according to the Bible. We did not deserve it. He gave it because He is love. I did not mean to get off on agape love here but Valentine reminds me of this and hence, I think it will make a good point that you will remember.
2. Eros(433)-— With Eros, the lovers inspire erotic feelings in each other. Love is not the issue here. Erotic feelings are. There may or may not be love. That would be shown by other parts of the chart.
3. Vesta(4)-–Vesta is not soul mate, per se. It could be in the charts of close friends or family members, as well as lovers. Vesta is sacrificial love, once again.However, it is not a throw yourself under the bus as much as a service kind of love. It is selfless service. Think of the woman who carries a baby as a surrogate mother for a woman who cannot have children. That would be an example of selfless service. When you see someone helping another person out of a pure heart and little thought for themselves, that would be the embodiment of Vesta.
4.Ceres- (1)-Ceres is not a soul mate asteroid, per se. It can be found in the charts of close friends, family, as well as lovers. Ceres is the unconditional love of a mother for her child. Think of a breastfeeding mother and you will have a picture of Ceres. If I had to link Ceres to planets , it would be the love of Moon/Pluto.
Ceres is the mother who does not think of herself, but the needs of her beloved child. Watch your synastry. Ceres feels quite unique. I can tell when I have it in synastry with someone. I feel very free to just be myself because I feel I will be loved, no matter what.That is the essence of Ceres.
5.Pallas (2)—Pallas is not a soul mate asteroid, per se. Pallas is great wisdom as had the elders of the Indian tribes. Pallas in synastry will show that one partner brings a great deal of maturity and common sense to the other. Love is complex. It must have depth and soul to last. That is why I put non sexual asteroids as soul mate asteroids. Soul mates share heart love. That is what makes them so beautiful.
6. Apollo (1862)–Apollo is not a deep love. If one person’s chart touches the Apollo of another, the planet person will worship the Apollo person. The planet person will feel as if he found a true Greek god or goddess. This can be very lovely
7. Child (4580)—-I love the Child asteroid. I love Moon trine Moon. I love Moon conjunct Moon. If anyone asks me if they have a soul mate chart, I will go right to the moons. I will decide from the moons, only, in many cases. That is how much the Moons mean to me. I think one’s Moon is one’s soul. A soul to soul connection is what soul mates are all about.
The Child Asteroid is our inner child. When it touches a personal part of another person’s chart, one may feel as if he can act like a child again. Love is child to child. Hence, if you had to substitute an asteroid for a planet, I would substitute the Child asteroid for the Moon. Look and see what your Child asteroid touches in the chart of your beloved. Once you know how it feels, you will be able to pick this up with other people, whether they be lovers of friends.
8. Lilith (1181)–-Lilith is raw sexuality, to me. There are several forms of Lilith. I use the asteroid Lilith. Raw sexuality is a glue which bonds soul mates. God made it for us and hence, it is important and not any lesser than the other asteroids. If one person’s Lilith touches a personal part of another person’s chart, both will feel it. Both will have a raw sexual attraction to each other.
9 Juno ( 3)--Juno is not a sexual asteroid, per se. It is the purest love of a devoted wife for her husband. If one sees couples who have been together for many years and they have that old familiar kind of devotion, that would personify Juno. Juno has the character to do what is right, even though one may want to do what is wrong.
Juno reflects the spouse who sticks through the hard times. Anyone can stay when the passion is high. Character is needed to endure the hard times. Endurance and fidelity reflect the lovely nature of Juno.
10. Alma (390)- Alma means soul in Spanish. Alma would be like the Moon. When the Alma asteroid touches a personal planet of the other, there will be a depth of knowing the person, such as one finds with Moon aspects.
Hi Ami! Do trines and squares have an effect especially if they are exact or 1 degree. And what about nodes of the moon touching asteroids?
Yes, yes, yes. The trines and squares need to be closer in orb than the conjunctions. The nodes are super important too!
And I must add that your ability to describe asteroids is truly vivid and remarkable
Thank you, Nany
I am so touched!
Love it. What aspects stand out more? I would think conjunctions, oppositions and squares
Welcome Sassaphy!
Conjunctions are the strongest of any aspect. This is because they are the closest like sitting next to a roaring fire. The other aspects must be a very small orb( less than 2 degrees) and will never be as powerful as the conjunction.
Yikes, here I go nuts! hahaha
Valentine:
Her Valentine
Square my Moon (2 degree)
Semisquare my Mars (0 degree)
Semisextile my Mercury (1 degree)
Quintile my Uranus (0 degree)
Squares my Pluto (1 degree)
My Valentine
Quincux her Neptune (1 degree)
Square her Pluto (0 degree)
Eros:
Her Eros
Square my ASC (1 degree)
Oppse my MC (0 degree)
My Eros
Trine her Sun (3 degree)
Square my Neptune (1 degree)
Quincux my Pluto (1 degree)
Vesta:
Her Vesta
Square my Sun (4 degree)
Trines my Mars (1 degree)
Square Saturn (1 degree)
Sextile NN (0 degree)
My Vesta
Sextile her Saturn (2 degree)
Ceres:
Her Ceres
Conjunct my Saturn (3degree)
Quincux my Jupiter (0 degree)
My Ceres
Conjunct her Sun (1 degree)
Sextile her Moon (0 degree)
Quincux her Jupiter (0 degree)
Pallas:
Her Pallas
Trine my Mars (1 degree)
Square my Uranus (1 degree)
Sextile my NN (0 degree)
My Pallas
Semisquare my Neptune (1 degree)
Appolo:
Her Applo
Trines my Sun (3 degree)
Sesquisquare my Moon (1 degree)
Squares my Mars (0 degree)
Biquintile my Jupiter (0 degree)
Sextiles my Saturn (2 degree)
Semisquare my Pluto (2 degree)
My Appolo
Square her Mars (2 degree)
Sextiles her Saturn (2 degree)
Semisextiles my Uranus (1 degree)
Semisquare my NN (1 degree)
Child:
Her Child
Quintile my Venus (0 degree)
Trine my Jupiter (1 degree)
Square my Saturn (3 degree)
Trine my NN (4 degree)
My Child
Square my Venus (4 degree)
Sextile my Mercury (0 degree)
Oppose my Mars (0 degree)
Quincux my Saturn (0 degree)
Sextile my Uraus (0 degree)
Lilith:
Her Lilith
Conjunct my Moon (4 degree)
Trine my Mercury (0 degree)
Trine my Neptune (3 degree)
Oppose my Pluto (3 degree)
Quintile my NN (1 degree)
My Lilith
Semisextile her Mercury (0 degree)
Quincux my Mars (0 degree)
Trime my Saturn (0 degree)
Semisextile my Uranus (0 degree)
Juno:
Her Juno
Square my Mercury (4 degree)
Quincux my Moon (0 degree)
My Juno
Sextile her Venus (1 degree)
Conjunt her NN (5 degree)
Alma:
Her Alma
Square my Mars (2 degree)
Sextile my Saturn (0 degree)
My Alma
Semisextile my Sun (1 degree)
Trine Jupiter (2 degree)
Conjunct my Neptune (3 degree)
Wow–some lovely soul there, Moonie dear! Thanks so much. Did you have some particular ones you wanted me to explore with you?
I don’t know Ami, whatever you sees as a strong aspect? 🙂
This has been one of the most enriching, and self-healing relationship ever, and perhaps the first of it’s kind to me. Love, Respect, and mutual nurturing, but there are challenges as well, which are more learning and releasing the hurt from the past experience.
Aww I will come back and study and see what hits me, Moonie! I am truly happy for you, my Friend!
Thank you! Have a wonderful day!
😉 🙂
Hiya Ami 😉
Hi Moonie. How are you 😀
🙂 Good, buzzed ya if you got time to look at the above connections? 😉
Moonie dea
If you could pick the top 4 aspects you want me to look at and write them here, I would love to help. The whole list is just too long for me to do each and every one. I hope you understand xx
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Hi Ami
I was wandering if you could help me understand these synastry aspects?
A woman’s sun conjunct a man’s valentine 3 degree in his 4th house
A woman’s north node sextile valentine 3 degree in his 4th house
A woman’s apollo conjunct a man’s vesta in his 7th house 1 degree
A woman’s sun opposite a man’s north node 3 degree
A man’s juno trine a woman’s eros in her 8th house 2 degree
Intresting ! Thanks for this article ! I have learned 4 new asteroids !
My “child” is conjunct to my Venus, same degree ; my Valentine is conjunct to my Pluto, also at the same degree…
Thank you for the great comment, my Friend. You must be very warm when you love others. You are strong in terms of being very selfless, as well. Very nice!
I have heard that conjunction and oppositions are strongest in Juno aspects in synastry. What’s your take on that. How square and opposition play out between Venus and Juno in synastry. I can imagine Venus and Juno feeling a pull towards each other probably in opposition, but will Venus and Juno like each other in a square? 🙂
I have Vesta conjunct my midheaven. What does that mean?
I love your description of Ceres in relationship; I haven’t heard it elsewhere but that’s exactly how it feels having Ceres trine Moon double whammy with someone, which becomes Moon conjunct Ceres in both the composite (0°01′) and Davison (3°). I always attributed this feeling mainly to a double-whammy Venus trine Jupiter, which is also lovely, plus Sun opp Sun (being SEEN by each other), but add this aspect to that mix and it all make sense on a deeper level. It’s like an unwavering soul-link that sees with love and compassion everything both on and under the surface, and accepts the other person with all their warts, even when other aspects between us might simultaneously feel awkward, or irritating, or mystifying, or too intense. And a brief glance can contain an entire, usually reassuring conversation. It’s like being met at the door with your favorite comfort food on a cold night after a long day—although that interpretation may also have a little something to do with my Moon and Ceres being in Taurus!
YES, you say it so well, Elle. I love Ceres. My longest relationship was with a man with a Ceres conj the Sun.
Hi Ami! I have Sun ( 13°) conjunct Ceres (14°) in Pisces) also my NN is ( 11°). How was your experience in that relationship from those aspects you described in that long termed relationship? Ok I am female and in your situation it was opposite.
Also another question. What kind of effects can Ceres conjunct Karma have in synastry? My recent love interest person and I have that conjunction. Also his Karma in Pisces (2°) is conjunct my Juno(2°)/Amor(2°)/MC ( 29°)…
My Mercury is ( 27°) Too wide orb to Karma but how to think when I have this conjunction
MC/ Mercury myself?
And general when you have conjunctions with an asteroid and then further conjunctions but not to the asteroid because of too wide orb?
You sound like an amazing person with Ceres/Sun and NN. This is a very loving person! Karma is fate and so these are very nice aspects to have. With the asteroids, I allow 2-3 in a conjunction.
Would connections to the I.C. be the equivalent of aspects to the moon?
Hi Ami!
I’d like to ask you what you think about these synastry aspects:
– his eros conjunct my sun-neptune (2°-0°) in aqua
– his child conjunct my IC (0°) in pisces
– his lilith conjunct my mars-jupiter (2°-0°) in aqua
– his alma conjunct my sun-uranus (0°-3°) in aqua
– my eros conjunct his nn (0°) in scorpio
How about pick two and I will try to help. All these would take a good amount of time, my Friend
Ok thank you!
What about his eros on my sun-uranus and his lilith on my jupiter-mars?
His eros is on my sun-neptune* sorry!!
I think the Sun/Eros would make for an erotic relationship, A.
erotic and a strong sexuality, A.
This is so lovely- I will keep referring to this! One question- with Valentine, is Valentine the beloved and the planet is the lover, the other way around, or it’s mutual? In this case, it’s Valentine conjunct Sun. thank you
This is so lovely- I will keep referring to this! One question- with Valentine, is Valentine the beloved and the planet is the lover, the other way around, or it’s mutual? In this case, it’s Valentine conjunct Sun. thank you
Valentine would BRING the love to the other person but both people would kind of feel bathed in the love, H.
Hi Ami Ann
What about if Valentine is in Opposition to the Sun or conjunct an angle like IC?
Valentine brings unconditional love so this would be the case in conjunction with an angle. With the opposition,the love may go back and forth, Line.
How about Amor?
I can’t find anything on sextile and trine with Valentine. This guy I like has his Valentine sextile my sun orb 1 and his Valentine trine my Ascendant exact. If you have time, can you tell me something about these two aspects? 🙂
He will have a feeling of wonderful unconditional love to you, Maja. Very nice!
Thank you so much for your answer <3 His Apollo conjuncts my Asc at 2 degrees and sextile my sun exact. Would he still have the worship feeling or is an orb of 2 too wide? :/
No, 2 is excellent, M.
Hello! I am very interested in checking out the asteroids in a new relationship that has both wonderful and challenging planetary aspects. I was looking at an ephemeris for the asteroids, and it is very hard for me to figure out what the placement of the 10 asteroids is for either of our birthdays. Is there somewhere EASY and free to access this info? On Astro.com., it doesn’t list all of the asteroids that you mentioned above.
Thank you so much for this work!
God bless…
Yes, you just have to plug in the numbers, my Friend.
Please ignore my question- I figured it out better on Astro.com.
This is a very helpful article! Thank you Amiann. It came to my attention because i just realised that i have Valentine exact conjunct my Sun at 1 Pisces. Figures ! I see God in everyone but please no more psychopaths to love.
You seem like a doll, M. I am not surprised about Valentine!
amiann, thank you ! ❤️
Hi Amiann
Could you please give an overall perspective on how these asteroids to personal planets/angles would work in synastry:
His amor conjunct my venus
His Valentine conjunct my venus
My amor conjunct his north node
His Eros conjunct my mars
His lust conjunct my mars
His dejanira conjunct my ASC
My lilith trine his venus
My lilith sesquiquadrate his moon (does this count?)
All 2 degrees and under.
I’m also very worried about one aspect: his nessus square my dejanira.
Thank you x
How about pick 2. This list would take me a long time, my Friend. Welcome!
Can you say if Valentines EXACTLY BY 20 minutes conj to someone else’s valentine?
We are not same age..
but he has valentine conj my sun by 4 degree and part of fortune by 0 degree too..
Valentine is the best kind of love. It makes people really sacrifice for each other. Very nice!
Hi Ami! I met someone a few months ago and have been getting closer with them lately. We really seem to get each other. I haven’t been able to research a ton of asteroids and aspects, but I know we have moons conjunct, valentine conjunct moon, eros conjunct psyche, psyche conjunct venus, eros conjunct venus… these are ones that stood out to me. And these are all within one degree or exact. Just thought I’d share – thank you for the post 🙂
That is lovely. Thank you for sharing! xoxo
My juno conjunct his venus. what does it mean? thanksss
Hi Ami
I’m struggling to find anything out about Amor conjunct Lilith and also Alma conjunct Nodes or Chiron. Any thoughts appreciated!
The first one could be love with passion. Alma is soul and a real mutual understanding so super good to conjunct the nodes but not Chiron because this would bring pain and a thwart to the understanding.
Thanks! I meant Alma conjunct NN and Uranus not Chiron! Sorry I’m being a clutz!! Also his Lilith conjunct my IC (as well as my Lilith conjunct his Amor – which is exactly as you say :-))
Thanks! I meant Alma conjunct NN and Uranus not Chiron! Sorry I’m being a clutz!! Also his Lilith conjunct my IC (as well as my Lilith conjunct his Amor – which is exactly as you say :-))
Alma would be his bringing soul to you like simpatico. Uranus conj NN shake up the NN person like forces him to change who he is.
Lilith conj the IC is a super sexy relationship that is deep sexually
Thanks so much Ami! That all sounds about how it is!
You are most welcome LJ!
Thank you so much for the valuable information you offer us…❤ What does it mean if someone’s Valentine conjuncts exactly our MC? And exact oppositions and squares including asteroids how differently could play out than a conjunction?🙏
I went to search up some of these asteroids you mentioned in my synastry chart w/ my boyfriend…
-His child conjuncts my sun, which exactly conjuncts his ascendant.
-His alma exactly conjuncts my IC
-My alma conjunct his Saturn in my seventh house, and his saturn conjuncts my ascendant.
-We both have venus- eros conjunctions that fall in each other’s 1st house.
-His Lilith conjuncts my moon. I have read some terrifying things about it on other websites. But I don’t think it impacts us too much because we both have Lilith square AC —His Lilith conjuncts his midheaven, and my Lilith conjuncts my IC.
I forgot to add my Child conjuncts his moon/IC conjunction in his chart.
This shows a deep connection, V
Thank you AmiAnn! And yeah, I’m very sorry haha I put so much in my comment!
This is too much to do, my Friend. If you want to pick 2 simple ones, I will be glad to help but you need hours of study to answer all these questions.