You would be surprised how much potential is lost because you think you have to be nice. Today, my voice teacher, who is studying to be a lawyer, told me something interesting about witnesses on the stand. If they have a strong voice, the lawyer won’t try to intimidate them. If they have a weak voice, they can be broken down. When they lose it and start yelling, they are not a credible witness, anymore.
I made a video to put on here and I can’t stand to look at it because I have a baby pee-wee voice. Your actual voice looses strength when you shut down your primal power. I have to liberate a wild animal and it is not in the zoo, unless you consider that I have a zoo inside.
In my home, being refined was valued to the point that you were all head. We may as well have descended from the Puritans, on the Jewish side. One does not just lose one’s voice. One loses one’s power. One loses one’s health. It is not easy holding down a wild beast. Holding him down, day by day, takes it’s toll.
I came to several conclusions about being nice. I wish I had learned these earlier. Nice is a concept for fools. Nice guys do finish last and that goes for nice girls, too. Let me begin my story at the beginning. I started my journey to find my voice four years ago.There is no way you can find your voice and look good at the same time.
There is no way you can find your voice and be liked by everyone. You must want your voice more than most anything, in order to find it, in my opinion. Once you find it, you can be quiet. Until that point, you make the clamor of an ungodly fire engine.
What does it look like to have your voice, in practical terms? You can be honest. You can say what you feel. You will be hated but you will be loved. When you are loved, you will be loved for the very things that many people hate you for. That love will nourish you because it is love for who you are because you had the courage to show it.