North Node Conjunctions
I would look at the North Node, first. The NN aspect with which I am most familiar is Chiron conjunct the NN. With any planet or asteroid which touches your NN in synastry, the relationship will be permeated by the nature of this planet/asteroid and what it represents. If people ask me, can they do anything to change it, I would say no. It will play out!
Other aspects which would make me want to run would be Nessus( abuse) Dejanira( victimization) Algol( evil) Sedna( betrayal by men) Medusa( betrayal by woman) Saturn( a strict, unrelenting parent) Pholus( major unrest and chaos) andUranus( abrupt, jarring change such as abrupt beginnings and endings to the relationship). Uranus could be a divorce aspect or a Liz and Dick kind of breaking up and getting back.
Other aspects I would avoid include Cupido( fake love i.e someone fooling you that he loved you when he didn’t), Cassanova ( a guy who could not be faithful. This could apply to woman, too) Lucifer( pride and arrogance, particularly of a spiritual nature, but canbe annoyingly arrogant, in general), Narcissus( a narcissism), Echo( co-dependency), Nemesis( a hiden enemy), Maniac( this one seems to be exactly what the name implies, awild and out of control behavior), Prey( this asteroid does seem to show up when a person is being used as prey),Lie( this seems to show up when there are lies), Swindle( this seems to show up when someone wants to swindle )
Saturn square or oppose Venus
The Saturn person may put a damper on the sensitive love nature of the Venus, which is a pure and innocent love. The Venus person may shut down and feel unloved.
Saturn square or oppose the Moon
The Saturn person may be very critical of the tender emotions of the Moon person. The Moon person may shrivel under the critical scrutiny and demand to “grow up” by the Saturn person.
Chiron conj the Sun, Moon, Venus or Mars
Chiron will bring pain to what it touches. This is not, always, bad. Sometimes, Chiron conjunct a personal planet, in synastry, can bring great healing, but Chiron is a strange wild card that can blow up relationships, for seemingly silly reasons. Once a Chiron relationship blows, it does not seem to get back. I would watch these Chiron aspects like a hawk, if you are thinking of marriage.
Anything that is abusive or painful touching your Ascendent would make me stop, drop and roll.. Your Ascendent is a very personal point, such as your underwear, not to be silly about it, but it is a very sensitive and vulnerable part of you. That is why Chiron conj the ASC in the natal is one of the hardest Chiron position, in my opinion. Pain hits you in the face, literally. So, if any of the abusive asteroids, such as Nessus or Algol are conjunct your ASC, in synastry, you will feel it and it will hurt. I do not think this can be overcome.
I think it will run the course of the relationship. Hence, if a man’s Nessus is conj your Ascendent, I think he will be abusive to you and it will run the course of the relationship. If someone’s Chiron is conj your ASC, I think they will bring pain to you and it will not stop. The type of pain may vary by the signs involved.If there were air signs, it may be mental pain. If there were earth signs, it may be physical pain, but pain it would be , in my opinion.
The type of pain with Nessus would vary with the nature of the signs involved, too. With air signs, Nessus would bring mental pain. With earth signs, Nessus may bring physical pain. With Cardinal signs, the pain may be more aggressive. With mutable signs, it may be less. There is an asteroid called Nemesis. If a man has his Nemesis conjunct your ASC, I would run. You get the sense of the ASC and what conjuncts it, I hope.
With a partner, his DSC will show what he wants/craves in a partner and yours will do the same. If his DSC shows that he craves a victim( Dejanira conj the DSC) I would run. If his DSC shows that he craves a pure love(Venus), I would stay. If Chiron conjuncts his DSC, he will look for partner who has had a painful life. He could be a caretaker kind of person. This may not be a bad thing. Chiron is not always bad. It can be a healer, in that it goes deep within a wound and deep healing is needed. However, again, Chiron is a wild card.
If something like Sedna conjunct the DSC, I would run because the person would look for betrayal and that can never end well. If Nemesis conjunct the DSC, I would expect the person to look for an enemy, in his partner. This happens more than you may think. We play out our childhood dramas with our partners. This is the case, for better or worse.
There would be many asteroids, I would not want conjunct my partners DSC because he would look for them in ME. The same asteroids I listed in the section on the ASC, I would not want conjunct my partners DSC. To do this for yourself, try to distill down the nature of the planet or asteroid and think if you would want it on various places. Once you can put these two things together, you are off to analyzing your own charts.
Anything that conjuncts the MC will touch you out in the open, in your relationship with society. If you watch the charts of woman who marry powerful men, the Sun of the woman will conjunct the MC of the man. In essence, he is elevating her, in the eyes of society. I was not surprised to see this in Kate Middleton’s synastry with Prince William. Kate will shine due to her relationship with William.If a man’s Venus hit your MC, you may have a public love affair like Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward.
However, if certain planets or asteroids, such as Nessus, from the chart of your partner hit your MC, you may fall. For example, if a man’s Nessus hits your MC, you may have abuse which would show, publicly. If his Uranus hit your MC, you may have break ups and make ups, which would show publicly such as Liz and Dick.The same asteroids I mentioned hitting the ASC would be what I would not want to hit the MC. The MC happens in public. EEK
While we are talking about angles, the IC angle is the most personal angle, because it is our childhood self, the little child which lives within all of us. If a man brings an abusive or abrasive planet or asteroid here, it would hurt. It would not show in public, but in private. If a man’s Nessus hit you here, he may abuse you behind closed doors. At any rate, I hope I have made the point to watch the angles in your chart for both good things and bad.
PS I seem to be confusing some people. I am talking about bad aspects. If a planet like the Moon or Venus conjuncts the ASC, IC, DSC or MC, it is a wonderful thing. If Lilith conjuncts one of the angles, it is a wonderful thing, as Lilith is raw sexuality and we all love that.You have to look at the nature of the planet and the nature of what it conjuncts to make your decision of what is good and what is not. Ask any questions, as usual!