Did you feel like you were going crazy? You were losing your mind? This is all part of the sociopath’s crazy making behaviour.
The sociopath will always accuse you of doing the very thing that they are guilty of themselves. They do this to deflect the attention from them.
Examples of this are
- Accusing you of cheating
- Accusing you of being dishonest or lying
- Accusing you of talking about them
- Accusing you of doing whatever it is that they are guilty of themselves
The sociopath has a bizarre ability to be able to make YOU feel guilty and feel like you have defend yourself… for things that he has done.
You see the sociopath, is actually fairly intelligent. He knows that whilst you are busy defending yourself, and proving your innocence, you will be confused, and will forget about the real issue, the truth that you are close to uncovering about the sociopath.
Bullshit Bingo
It’s all a game to the sociopath. Life is a game. With little inside themselves they spend most of their life playing stupid mind games.
Accusing you of things that they have done themselves, is something that they will do over and over again. The result for you, the victim is
- Feeling confused
- Feeling violated
- Feeling misunderstood
- Feeling unheard
- Feeling guilty
- Likely he will also say ‘everyone thinks, or says….’ – so you feel isolated too
Afterwards, after wasted hours, protesting your innocence, you think
How did that happen?
The truth is right there, you are relieved that the constant questions and accusations have stopped. There is peace again.
Once again, the sociopath has managed to manipulate the situation, and deflect blame back onto you. You have spent another few hours of your time, stressed, anxious and defending your corner.
You feel that yet again there was yet another problem that didn’t need to be there. Some other issue, that didn’t need to be there.
But for the sociopath, it isn’t like that. He is playing a game. Playing a game with your mind and your heart. There are two things that are important to the sociopath
- Winning
- Control
If you were to catch him out in a lie, he would neither win, or be in control. So he will do anything that he can do, to win the game, and control the game.
That is all that it is.
The sociopath probably doesn’t even realise the effect that this has on you. After all, he never thinks about your needs, and this is in terms of both good and bad things. He, like always is thinking about himself, not about you, your welfare or your needs.
It is all just a game. A stupid, mindless game. That could continue for the rest of your life if you let it.
Isn’t it time to move forward? To stop playing the stupid game with the sociopath, who could play forever. If you let him. The sociopath doesn’t feel too much, but he does feel satisfaction from
- Winning
- Being in control
Maybe right now it is time to stop playing the game. To finish the game. Stop playing. It is now time to focus on you. On your needs and your welfare. After all when you were with the sociopath, so much of your time and energy was wasted, defending yourself, and playing pointless mind games, nobody was taking care of your needs.
Endless stress and endless drama. that is the relationship with the sociopath. There comes a time, when the only thing to do, is to put in place no contact rules, stick to them, and focus on you, and loving yourself and creating your own beautiful world. A world where there isn’t someone constantly trying to pull you apart.
You deserve so much better 🙂
http://datingasociopath.com/2013/06/08/the-sociopath-will-always-accuse-you-of-what-they-are-guilty-of-themself/
http://blog.petflow.com/youre-never-too-old-to-dance/
you look like the girl in the picture, amiam, are you sisters
Why do I miss you when you are not around,Amp. I must be mental 😀
You are always a marvelous case. You are so not a trapped budgie in black and white setting
Thanks Amp. You have a way with words
Aww you get offended at the stupidest of things. You remind me of Mike myers in a frilly ensemble 😀
Dan, my online husband, told me to tell you he was sorry for the mean things he said to you, Amp.
why be sorry?
show me his pic, ani ame, I think he might be more handsome than zack effron.
He is prolly the most gorgeous man I have ever seen. Lilith conj the ASC but his beauty is from a amazing poetic heart, sweetness and a darkness that peeks out around the corner 😀
He is super, super intelligent but humble about it. If he wants to show you his pic, he can. Don’t think we are gonna have a threesome, now.
I’m not interested to come in between you two, I’m so sorry. Don’t drag me into your puddle of madness. I’m not that type.
Not that type lol
Well, maybe Dan will see this and grace you with a pic
I might steal him from you, though I dont really respect his foul mouth towards me the other time. :/
With your silver tongue, I would not have a chance against your stealing him :/
If you challenge me to a neopet game, I’ll give him to you on a plate.
Aww I can’t play games but it is an enticing offer :/
Aww thanks for turning me down so graciously. Nobody would suspect you were mental when you talk like that :/
Thanks 😀
Dan is moving to a new house. He should be back commenting when he is done, I hope. Maybe you and he could become friends!
No sweet notes are deleted :/
The one that I said abominable snowball
I thought it was rather sweet
No
Take my new quiz, Amp. I bet you won’t be surprised at what I got. Since, they didn’t have a person locked in a cave, I had to go with second best
Did you see this clip I left for you, Amp?
You have an old person fetish, right Ami am?
This is the Theme for that guy, Amp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suRsxpoAc5w
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhDVSiidt_4