We all need to feel special. We all need to feel that we matter. We all need to feel that we have something to offer. This is a human need. It is not weakness.It is part of out human make-up.…
Intimacy–In To Me See
This topic has been nagging me. Many of my readings are inquiries into relationships. We crave closeness. We crave love. We crave attachment. However. lets examine the anatomy of intimacy. Intimacy is literally allowing another to see you.OUCH. Do you…
How To Increase Self Esteem—Part Two
Each person was created with unique talents. The desire for recognition and significance is within each person. If it is not met in a positive way, it will be met in a negative one . Approval from the outside will…
How To Heal Emotional Illness?
Empty your pain tank by crying. This is cutting edge psychology. It is called Right Brain Trauma Theory. It is simple, as all true healing is. It takes no money or fancy equipment. It does take one thing, though. Someone…
Do I Have to be Perfect to Love Myself?
I know I am not the only one who asks herself this question. I was raised to be a Type A person, in all ways. If I could not be perfect, I was nothing. It was not OK to be…
Does It Matter That I Exist?
Do you wonder if you matter? Do you wonder if your space on this earth means anything? Do you think that, maybe, you were a mistake? It is easy to feel that you have no value, that you are a…
Do I Matter?
Do you wonder that? Do you wonder if you make a difference to anyone? Does it matter that you have lived? Do you matter to anyone? I think we need to feel we belong. We need to feel that the…
Talk Therapy Will Not Work
I know I will get a lot of criticism for saying this. I think it is true, so I must say it. I have never seen someone helped by talk therapy. If someone has been, I have not seen it.…
Addictions Are Painkillers
Addictions are pain killers. How do you make pain go away? Addictions will take it away, short term. Pain is like a buried bed of rocks on the floor of the Grand Canyon. People will give you platitudes because they…
How To Heal Emotional Problems? Find Someone to Listen
This simple solution is more profound than you could ever know. The person does not have to have special training. It may be better if they don’t. Alice Miller calls it an “Enlightened Witness”. The person needs a few qualifications,…