This will be an ongoing article, as I am always learning. However, I will say that it is better to learn than be frozen in inaction, which I have been. It is better to be out there, making all sorts of mistakes, than dying for fear of it. With that caveat, I will start.
1. If you achieve anything, there will be people who will hate you.
2. Make sure you act with integrity because these people are looking for the one time you don’t, and they will be waiting to pull you down. Make sure you don’t give it to them
3. If you want to fight back against one of these people, make sure you are in the right. Then, you can land a punch to the face. However, if you are not in the right, the person will not be defeated and will rise to torment you, another day.
4. If someone hurts your feelings, be happy, not sad. This is a hard one. We all want to escape pain. However, they are only hurting your ego, not the essential you. They will help you to burn off your ego, which will then allow you to have true happiness and peace.
5. If you are rejected, it is really a blessing. as you can learn, little by little, not to care. We will, always, care a little, as we are human. However, in time you will feel as if there are many people out there who would love to be your friend. When someone rejects you, you can move on.
6. The best high is being at peace with yourself. This trumps other people’s compliments. However, other people’s compliments are like jewels. You hold them to your heart and you feel more beautiful, more wanted and more loved. However, if they are your food, you will be DRIVEN to obtain them. Then, they will not feel peaceful, but harried.
7. We, all, need strokes, so find positive ways to get them such as through your accomplishments. When people feel you have value, it will help build you up and give you good self esteem. When you get stokes on external things like looks or money, you wonder if you would be loved without it. This does not give true self esteem, in my experience. It gives pleasure, but not a building up of your basic self worth and esteem.
8. Find things you do well, and do them with abandon. Give them freely, when no one asks.. People’s surprise at something freely given gives a wonderful joy to the giver.
9. There are so many wonderful highs one can have that are free. Make a joke about the obvious elephant in the room. Give something totally unexpected to someone. Surprise someone . The look on their face at a kindness done for no personal gain will be joy enough.
10. Your own personal power is a key to happiness. If you don’t have it, you will be depressed. Find it, no matter how hard you have to look or how long it takes. It is the singular answer to most emotional problems.
11. Find humility, as you would a lover. It will serve you better than a lover. With humility. you will be welcome in all groups of people.
12. Realize you don’t matter, at all, but you matter tremendously.
13. Let other people build you up. Don’t do it yourself, by bragging. You can talk about your accomplishments, as long as they are real, but they don’t make you special. You are special because God loves you.
14. Feed yourself and don’t expect others to feed you, emotionally. When they do, take it as gravy, a gift. Love it and enjoy it, but don’t expect it.
15. Keep the thought of death close, as that will help you manage your ego. You will die, at some point. That is a relief. Whatever mistake you made or screw up you did, will be gone and forgotten, at that point. It puts things into perspective.
16. You have little power other overs, but great power over yourself. Take the reins of that power, with gusto. This is one of the main ways to ban depression
17. When you get really down, force yourself to brighten up the life of someone else. It will water you, as nothing else, as it is a spiritual law.
18. Accept all your feelings as human, as you have a part of you that came in, not from your own doing, but back in the days of Adam. This part wants to destroy you and everyone else. This is the beast, inside you. We all have one. Listen to him speak, so you can understand yourself and others, but know that he is really not an integral part of the you, who God made.
19. Get Born Again, so you have God’s actual spirit living inside of you. There is no other way than that. Then, seek to learn to listen to the still, small voice, within. It is God’s voice. You won’t go wrong, if you listen. It is, always, speaking in small things.
20. Evaluate people’s characters. If someone has a low character, know they will act in accordance. Don’t allow them access to your inner self. Don’t be surprised when they show you who they are, again and again.
21 This is one of the most important. Don’t give your enemies an ounce of wiggle room to tear you down, not an ounce. If you do, they will take that ounce and make it nuclear. You must hold yourself with upright actions, at all times. When you slip, your enemies will be sure to be lurking and will pounce. You can never do it, perfectly, but try to reach this bar. The pain of the consequences of not doing this will bite you, each time. This will help you to stand strong, as there is nothing quite like a bite, to teach us.
22. This is an extremely hard lesson to learn. If someone does not like you, walk away. This hurts a great deal, especially if you reached out in a genuine way to that person. I don’t think it can not hurt. It will, but there will be more people who like you than don’t. There will be more people who want to be your friend, than not. Cry when your feelings are hurt, as that makes you more human and have more empathy for others, and yourself, as well. It is all good, is the larger point, even if it hurts, badly.
23. Force yourself not to get bitter. It is better to cry tears from being hurt than be so hard inside that you can’t be hurt.
24. When someone really, really hurts you, try not to retaliate. Give it to God. Then watch. I tell you that it is amazing what will happen, but it is conditional on you keeping your side of the street clean. If you take matters into your own hands, God won’t work, it seems. This phenomena, where God takes care of it, is totally amazing, mind boggling.
25. Force yourself to act in love. Cry out to God, rather than retaliate against a person. Then, watch.You may be very amazed at what happens <3
26. Don’t cast your pearls before swine. This means to know to whom and when to open your heart. Listen to the still, small voice on this. You are, always, guided by something Greater. You just have to listen.
27. In all your interactions, choose to be respected rather than liked, or even loved. The latter are more fleeting than the former. The latter is yours to claim, as it originates in you and no one can take it away.
To be continued as long as I am above ground.
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