I know I am not alone in this. I will tell you my story. I could never shine. I had to make sure that a Malignant Narcissist mother shone. I was punished when I outshone her and I could. I…
Radical Honesty–How I Do Counseling
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Shame
This article calls me, not like cheesecake in the freezer but like a dentist’s appointment. Talking about shame is like throwing yourself naked in the street. I could not write about shame if I had not had several experiences. One…
When To Make an Enemy a Friend and When To Just Kick Him?
This is an important question. You might think it is silly but there is a lot of wisdom in it. Trust me. I have failed. Failure is one of the best teachers. There are several categories of people . I…
How People Hassle Me and Tell Me They are Not and Expect Me to Believe It
This article is not just about me. It is about everyone who wants to be strong and confident( and that is everyone). It is for those who were taught not to trust themselves. This is really the subject of this…
People Who Are Crazy AND Have Too Much Pride
I have been thinking about someone in my family who is about the most well balanced person I know. She had everything and everything turned out well for her. She was beautiful, strong, smart and sweet. She had 3 children…
Anger and Healing From Emotional Problems
I got a flash of insight into emotional problems. One of my friends is on medication for bi-polar disorder. She does not want to be on the medication and was talking about this. It hit me that the medication pushed…
Can You Tell if Someone is a Sociopath?
I would say that the short answer is no. The long answer is yes. This may be enigmatic. Discovering that someone is a sociopath is more enigmatic, so bear with me. I will tell you about my most recent experience.…
Why Do People Do Self Destructive Behavior?
I think I am coming to the root of this. I don’t know how to say this. I came to equate sadism with love. I recoil as I type this. My eyes are welling up with tears. I think this…
Feeling Sorry For Your Abusers
Alice Miller has been cast out of the psychiatric societies. She rankles people. Truth rankles people. Alice Miller is the foremost expert in child abuse. I have read her website for years but only after writing about the Gaslighting did…